Preschool Portal Parent Tool

Toddler Behavior Notes

Look beneath a difficult moment with curiosity and compassion.

Child’s name Date Time

Behavior is communication. Record what happened without blame. The goal is to notice patterns and understand what support may help.

What happened before?

Where were we, who was there, and what was happening?

What did my child do?

Describe only what you saw and heard:

What happened afterward?

What did the adults do, and how did the moment end?

A possible feeling

A possible need

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Parent reminder Describe the moment—not the child.

Try “My child hit when the toy was removed” instead of labeling your child as difficult or bad.

Preschool Portal Parent Tool

Patterns & Next Steps

Use what you noticed to choose one supportive response to try.

Child’s name Week of Age

Look for patterns across several moments. One difficult day does not define your child. Consider sleep, routines, communication, surroundings, and connection.

What might have contributed?

Hungry or thirsty Tired Transition or change Too much noise or activity Wanted connection Could not communicate a need Asked to wait or stop Something felt difficult

What seemed to help?

Stayed close and calm Used fewer words Named the feeling Set a clear safety limit Offered two choices Moved to a quieter space Helped with the task Waited and reconnected afterward

What will I try next time?

Before the difficult moment: During the difficult moment: After everyone is calm: